Thursday, November 12, 2009

These flowers are sitting on my kitchen table and I am in the Kansas City airport waiting to get on a plane to Raleigh-Durham, NC. I am going to visit my friend, Brantly and her family.....
This Saturday would've been the 21st birthday of her darling Elena, who was killed in a tragic accident September. I know that there will be many tears, but I also know that there will be laughter and stories. Brantly and I have known one another for many years - shared all kinds of adventures. It is unfortunate that this, too, becomes a journey that we are sharing.
It is a choice, but there is life after the loss of someone you love. The smiles and "pure joy" do disappear for a while, but they also DO come back. I do not believe that our dear ones "leave" us. I think they live in our hearts forever and we can "feel" them when we need to.
There is nothing easy about any of it, but I have seen different choices that have very different outcomes. "One Day at a Time" has become a bit of a cliche, but literally, it is exactly what we must do to walk through the difficult challenges in our lives....oh, and the occasional smile...

I love you, Brantly and am looking forward to being with you for these next few days. 


  1. So sorry about your friend, I cannot imagine the heartstopping days that she and you have been through.
    My close friend and neighbour lost her 16 year old daughter 2 years ago, and you are so right, Vicky is still with us here in Matham road. Sometimes you can just see her laughing again...
    my thoughts are with you......

  2. yep! I have it framed in my room "It is our mind, and that alone, that chains us or sets us free." It's from my Buddhist calender.
    I'm so glad you have each other.